Monday, August 10, 2009

Must change

The other night the whole family was riding in the car to go somewhere. Probably to eat dinner somewhere. All of this summer fun is about to come to a screeching halt. School is starting. Boo hoo. I'm not happy about this transition at all. Can we not just switch the calendar around and make summer a teeny bit longer because this one flew by!

Anyhoo....we were pulling out of the neighborhood and I'm in the passenger seat of my hubs car and I found myself looking at this big box thingy that keeps all of his spare change. I am always amazed at the amount of change he has in his car. A mom with 3 kids in the car would never have that kind of spare change lying around. I'm lucky to have a dollar. We go through some serious cash when it's around. It's really a shame, but I have a feeling I'm not alone on this one.

So, as I'm looking at this change I notice these brown pills all mixed up with the change. Ok. Hmmmmmm....let's see. I ask hubs what the pills are....and I secretly hope it's something good because I've been a tiny bit stressed this past week with end of summer beginning of school and all....but, he tells me it's Advil. Boo.

ADVIL??? I caught myself saying something to him in the next sentence that I really must stop doing. I replayed it back in my head and thought..."SHUT UP WOMAN. YOU SAY THIS MESS ALL THE TIME!" This is what I said to him.....

"Why didn't you just put the Advil here, in this little thing, so it's not all mixed up with the money?

No big deal right???

Yeah, except I say things like that all the time to him.

I might say,"Why don't you make the grilled cheese with Pam so it doesn't stick." I might say, "Why don't you just put all your shirts here so they don't get messed up." I might say, "Why don't you get something to put all these papers in so I don't have to sit on them every time I get in the car."

Blah, blah, blah.

You get the idea.

Don't you think he's screaming in his head, "SHUT UP WOMAN! YOU SAY THIS MESS ALL THE TIME!!!"


I'm making a conscious effort to innocently stop this. I'm getting on my own nerves.

What do you need to work on with your spouse?? Let's be a better spouse and do the right thing.
They are sooooo worth it.

Have a fabulous day!
Hugs and blessings~


Mel @ Studio MCA Designs said...

I am so guilty of this very thing - been working on it, though. I am the logical reasoner trying to do all things most efficiently. Maybe that comes with years of motherhood, I don't know. But what makes me think MY way is better? This is the real issue, isn't it?

ocean mommy said...


My thing is finishing his thought before he does. I know it absulutely drives him crazy. The think is I know as soon as I do it I need to shut my mouth and let the man talk. :)

Praying for you my sweet friend!!


angie128 said...

Ouch. Please move. You are stepping on my toes.

Unknown said...

I'm with angie.

I don't know how James has put up with me for the past few months. I can barely stand to be around myself sometimes!

Thank you for the toe stepping, Fran. I think being aware of what you are doing is the first step...right?

beckyjomama said...

What do I need to work on?


I annoy the stinkin heck outta myself!

Darlene R. said...

I hear ya!! I believe my pastor calls it nagging.

Dern, I hate that word!

We can just all pray for each other on this one. :)

Love ya,

Immeasurably More Mama said...

This one hurt a little but I REALLY needed to hear it! :)

I'm going to really make a conscientious effort to tell myself, "SHUT UP WOMAN! YOU SAY THIS MESS ALL THE TIME!!!" when I feel like giving my hubby unsolicited advice. Why do we do this??? I would hate it if he said things like this to me all the time.

connorcolesmom said...

yes indeed my friend you are striking a nerve :)
I think that as women we assume that b/c they are our husbands we can "boss" them around
however they are people too with their own opinions ideas etc
Thanks for the reminder
Much love

Linda said...

Cute post Fran. I do the exact same thing. When in the car.. Why don't you go this way? Watch out for that person.. let Him in he has his blinker on.. sometimes I feel like I am treating him like one of the children. That is so wrong..I need to work on that.

Anonymous said...

This very thing has been weighing heavy on my mind and in my heart. I 'see' ways that my dear hubby can have things around him 'better'....and I share it with him--gently of course. UGH! I think to myself "shuddup! His way is okay!" I also explain why my way would work well, when he doesn't respond...yeah, I just keep going and going about it. Double UGH! I'm working on it, but need a zipper on my mouth. :^\


Holly said...

Mine is...I'm not asking MUCH. Aye.

Chip Thomas said...

Quit telling everybody about my little brown pills!

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