Monday, February 11, 2008

Marriage and Parenting....Jesus style

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Well, this is it in a nutshell, huh?!

We want to know how to be a better parent and we want to know how to be a better wife or husband to our spouse! I could talk about these two things all day long, but I won't! :)

And, we want to have Christ as the true foundation of our home.

But, why can we just completely feel clueless, lost, unsure, afraid, miserable, stressed and frustrated when it comes to either of these topics?

I am in the process of "viewing" two studies for our church to hopefully use for both of these topics to give parents and spouses an opportunity to grow together......grow with God as the center of their family.

What happens if you and your spouse differ on how to parent your children??

What if you are a single parent and you are pulled and stretched so thin you feel as if you are about to break right in two?

What if you and your spouse are in different places spiritually? What if you are the head of the household and not him?

What if your children could care less about God in everyday life?

What if your children are about to be the death of you because of their attitudes and behaviors and you have no clue what do to?

I tell you what......I am spending some time facedown before God asking Him to speak directly into this heart of mine, my husbands, my childrens lives. I'm asking Him to do this.....

1. Give us all a passion to seek You with every fiber of our being.

2. Give us a desire to really know You and what you would have for my life today.

3. Empty ourselves so that we can be filled with You, Lord, and pour out that overflow to others.

4. Give me strength, courage, clarity, wisdom, and insight to speak life and love into those I love the most.

5. Pray daily, hourly, however as much they enter my mind, for their hearts, my husbands decisions, my childrens friends, my children's decisions, coversations that we all have, pure hearts and motives within us all........

6. Fill me hourly with the Fruit of the Spirit.....I get emptied so quick so I need refilling over and over and over again. Galations 5:22

You get the idea of what I'm after with my family.......

But there are days and times that are just HARD! So, I need all the help I can get from church and the people within the church. I'm praying for opportunities that my home church can begin to offer regularly to teach and encourage parents and families down this road of life with these people we cherish most.

I can't get enough of either of these topics.

I need my strength and support to come from those who have a heart in line with Christ. And, I mean truly in line with Him.

What is influencing you as you go through this daily journey as a mom, dad, husband, wife??

I need to give every ounce of every situation to Him first and then seek those around me that can help me too.

I pray your daily journey is filled with people and resources that do just that. Our time on Earth is just too short to not be intentional about what we are after.

Seek Him friends. Seek Him in all things! Seek His Word. Find someone to help you through the difficult times. And, find those that are lined up with the Word of God.

Please share any resources that were completely helpful to you that I may also add to my list of possibilites to have at my church.

Ephesians 5:15 "Be very careful, then, how you live--not as unwise but as wise....."

Blessings over all of you and your families~


Alana said...

I couldn't agree with you more! I think the church often falls short preparing and encouraging people for marriage and family struggles. I know I could use lots more help in this area!

By the way, my pastor's sermon yesterday was on the armor of God. I thought of you!

jennyhope said...

I think to that when we stop praying for our immediate family we get bitter, allow unforgiveness to take root, and our homes become divided. And a house divided against itself can not stand. I need to be better about praying more specifically for my man especially. Thanks for this post Fran!!

Darlene R. said...

This is something that I constantly think and pray about. The Lord has entrusted these three kids to me and my husband to train and bring up in Him. That is scary for a mom with this many flaws and imperfections! I often think, "Are we doing this parenting thing correctly?"
It is hard. I am so thankful for the Bible and it's instruction.

Speaking Thru Me Ministries said...

10 things i want my daughter to know and 10 things i want my son to know - it is by the chapman's but not the love language chapman's. Older books, but awesome!! thanks for spurring me to great lengths with my fmaily!! Leigh

Mariel said...

Great, thought-provoking questions...really something to pray about! Praise the Lord for the wisdom He freely gives us as we ask!

We blogged along the same lines...God must be up to!! Praise Him!

blessings, mariel

Denise said...

Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Stephanie (Ocean Mommy) said...

Oh girl....

I don't think we can ever pray enough for our husbands or our children, or their future spouses!!!

This post really encouraged me today. We are dealing with an extended family situation that has just...well thrown us for a loop.

Thank you for reminding me to keep this at the feet of Jesus.

He Knows My Name said...

there is a book bev brandon referred to in raising children in one of her older blogs. great post very convicting. love you. ~janel

connorcolesmom said...

I totally agree!
I have to pray for my family constantly. It helps me to keep perspective and to remember this is a spiritual battle. I will battle in prayer for their lives/souls!
I needed to read that today - thank you!

pooja said...

nice post:)
thanks for sharing with us..:)

we at blog on various tips and tricks on parenting:)

BethAnne said...

Several years ago, my hubs and I did a class at church "Successful Chrsitian Parenting" by John MacArthur.......I pray you find some wonderful resources for your church. Let us know which ones you find most helpful!

Abby said...

you mamas teach me daily...i hope i'm half the mom you are to your sweet kids one day!!!
i'm not up on my parenting books (hehe) but i have many friends who are mamas so if i hear word of anything, i'll send it your way :)
love you friend!

Charity said...

I totally agree with you! Brady and I had some pre-marital counseling when we were engaged, but we would have benefited from some classes after we were married too.

I blog so you can get a glimpse into my life as wife, mom of 3 boys, and someone who simply wants to bless others along the way. Have fun and be sweet :)

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