Sunday, July 5, 2009

Bruised and beaten and just worn slick

I've been known to be the cheerleader type and I feel like I am most days! It's much more fun to be the cheerleader type.


I have been wallering (sp?) in some big fat mess of stuff that I'd really like to make disappear and totally leave my brain, but that ain't happening. Where is our delete button in our brain?


Let me introduce to you a few simple things that you may or may not know. I've learned them in this thing called life and it just wasn't pretty. Let's say that I have relearned them and relived them.

I am definitely not going to tell you the whole back story thing so don't ask! Ha! It really doesn't matter anyway.


1. The good ole golden rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." In other words...treat people like you want to be treated.

2. DO NOT GOSSIP. I repeat.....DO NOT GOSSIP! We aren't in Jr High anymore. STOP IT!!

3. If you are talking about someone or something....are you just adding to the problem or are you a part of the solution? Please be a part of the solution.

4. There is no "i" in the word team. Whatever team you are takes MANY people to make it successful.

5. Keep your heart and mind in God's Word. How in the world can we live our life for Him, but have no idea how to do it?

6. If you have a question, comment, or criticism about someone or something...just go straight to them. Please don't add fuel to the fire and talk about them. We are here to accomplish great things and make a difference.

7. We are here to build one another up and not tear each other down. Ephesians 4:29

8. Sometimes it's just good to cry it all out.

9. Find yourself a mentor that will speak love and truth over you.

10. Life is just plain hard. How in the world do we get through the hard stuff without Jesus??

I told God today that I was just so very tired. He told me this....deep in my heart.

"This trial you are under will develop some strength, perseverance, and a heavy dose of faith testing."

I told Him while I pouted and cried and carried on....

"But I'm tired and don't want to do this any more."

God laughed and said....

"Do you just believe in me or do you believe me to do what only I can do?"

I'm choosing to hang in there with God and believe Him for who He says He is. I love Him too much. And, He died for me. And, He loves me. He is for me and not against me. And, I'm working for Him, not man. And 1001 other things.

Hang in there friends. No matter how bruised we get, He is all that truly matters.

I'm dusting the dirt off and I'm getting right back on this horse again. All because of Jesus.

Love you so very much!


Anonymous said...

Wow. Thank you for sharing. Sometimes when we go thru trials, it is for those around help others know that God is real.
I heard a pastor say one time that our life is not about us, but for God's glory.
What glory you have brought to Him by sharing your 10 life lessons.
Thanks again.
Be blessed!

Little Steps Of Faith said...
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Little Steps Of Faith said...

Hi, this is Angie:) You may know me from my blog, but I have neglected to visit yours in sometime...:)

Anyway, I love this, you are such a special person, do you know that:)
Thank you for pouring your heart out:)

love ya:)

Michelle V said...

Amen Siesta!


Latte With Me said...

Amen Fran...Amen.

For the record, I'll gladly be next to you encouraging you and speaking to you in truth. I'll gladly get battered and bruised right along side my Siesta.


Linda said...

Thanks for being real and posting a very real truthful list. "If only we could all.....? But if everything were perfect we'd have no need for God. I am praying for you today sweet friend.

Mary said...

Oh, sweet Fran --my heart breaks with yours. I've learned all those lessons the hard way and some of them I had to repeat MULTIPLE times.

My heart breaks with you but I also know what the Lord is refining in this fire will bring a great harvest for His Kingdom.

Trust Him because He is the all in all.

Anonymous said...

Needed this today. Need it every day I guess. Thanks for sharing.

beckyjomama said...

Lessons learned ... I am praying fro ya Frannie - and lovin ya somethin fierce!]

connorcolesmom said...

Oh sweet Fran!
I feel your pain and I am lifting you up!
Life is hard and people can be cruel
God has a perfect plan and will provide all you need :)
Love you

Mel @ Studio MCA Designs said...

Praying for you and clear direction. Praying that God places plenty of positives in your path to offset the negatives. You are one special lady!

NikkiPoppins said...

Girl...I think you and are in the same class that God's teaching this season...Thank you for sharing and being honest about how you are feeling through all of it. And I will be praying for you as you go through all this.
Love you so very much!

Sheryl said...

Needed this!

Thank you.


Darlene R. said...

Oh girl! You hit it right on the head with this one!

"Do you just believe in me or do you believe me to do what only I can do?"

That right there is what I needed right now. Why must I struggle so? Why can I not just trust that God will do what is best for ME?

Georgia Jan said...

Sweet Fran: Whatever it is you are going through, I sure love your heart in this post. This I know: "God does not ever waste a trial!" When we are willing, we will learn. (And I've told God many times that I want to be in Gifted and Honors and Advanced Placement with Him - not remedial.) Help me learn it Lord - learn and remember so I can make application in my life for Your glory!

Sometimes we just need to go back to "Boot Camp," you know? You have shared some back-to-basics truths and I am so blessed to be reminded this day.

And I'll tell you this, if I lived near you - I'd be owning that #9 over you! I'm here via blogworld and FB and internet whatever you need my friend.

Love, Jan

PS: One more thing from a Mom/Gran of boys to a Mom of boys: I know that sometimes it's hard living in testosterone city, so if you need some more of that #8 crying it out, just go to your room or closet and do it. Been there - done that. It's okay that the guys don't "get it," they love you anyway.

Shelley said...

Oh sweet Fran, thank you for sharing your heart with us! Beautiful words, and so so true.

Anonymous said...

Hugs to you Fran! I try to catch myself before I say negative things or gossip as I know how much it hurts to have someone do that to me. Truthfully I don't always keep my mouth shut, but I do succeed much more often than I open it. I feel so dirty and ashamed of myself when I say something negative about someone else--even if what I'm relating is what someone did or said to hurt me. I try to remember that I'm not walking in that mean, hurtful person's shoes and I don't know why they decided to turn on me. I try to remember that God loves them as much as He loves me and I need to lift my chin, shut my mouth and move on in my life. Hard at times and I'm not always successful.....but I'm learning. I want to gift others with grace as much as I want to have God's grace and forgiveness.

I love your heart and that you share it with us.


Joanne (The Simple Wife) said...

Love you back.

Praying there are some new merices coming your way this morning, sweet friend!

Much love,

jennyhope said...

Fran I am in a mess myself on both sides of the fam.
I needed this! I LOVE YOU!

Melinda said...

Girl - I'm late in jumping in on this, but it was needed for me TODAY. Hope the mess is working itself out, but I KNOW that God's at work in it and in YOU.

Love you Fran,

P.S. LOVE that new profile pic!

Dedra Herod said...

Ditto to what Melinda said about being late... but GIRL... preach it. I so wish you had been in my life a couple of years ago. I have had to learn the hard way but reckon every single one of your points is stinkin true!

I love you for being so honest and vulnerable. I am holding your arms up through prayer and saving some for my spirit as well.


ocean mommy said...

You have no idea how much I needed to read this right now.

Love you!

Charity said...

Oh Fran..I so needed to hear that today. Thanks!


Alana said...

Good stuff, Fran. I've been there!

I blog so you can get a glimpse into my life as wife, mom of 3 boys, and someone who simply wants to bless others along the way. Have fun and be sweet :)

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