The other night the whole family was riding in the car to go somewhere. Probably to eat dinner somewhere. All of this summer fun is about to come to a screeching halt. School is starting. Boo hoo. I'm not happy about this transition at all. Can we not just switch the calendar around and make summer a teeny bit longer because this one flew by!
Anyhoo....we were pulling out of the neighborhood and I'm in the passenger seat of my hubs car and I found myself looking at this big box thingy that keeps all of his spare change. I am always amazed at the amount of change he has in his car. A mom with 3 kids in the car would never have that kind of spare change lying around. I'm lucky to have a dollar. We go through some serious cash when it's around. It's really a shame, but I have a feeling I'm not alone on this one.
So, as I'm looking at this change I notice these brown pills all mixed up with the change. Ok. Hmmmmmm....let's see. I ask hubs what the pills are....and I secretly hope it's something good because I've been a tiny bit stressed this past week with end of summer beginning of school and all....but, he tells me it's Advil. Boo.
ADVIL??? I caught myself saying something to him in the next sentence that I really must stop doing. I replayed it back in my head and thought..."SHUT UP WOMAN. YOU SAY THIS MESS ALL THE TIME!" This is what I said to him.....
"Why didn't you just put the Advil here, in this little thing, so it's not all mixed up with the money?
No big deal right???
Yeah, except I say things like that all the time to him.
I might say,"Why don't you make the grilled cheese with Pam so it doesn't stick." I might say, "Why don't you just put all your shirts here so they don't get messed up." I might say, "Why don't you get something to put all these papers in so I don't have to sit on them every time I get in the car."
Blah, blah, blah.
You get the idea.
Don't you think he's screaming in his head, "SHUT UP WOMAN! YOU SAY THIS MESS ALL THE TIME!!!"
And, I think he throws in a "I'M 40 YEARS OLD AND CAN HANDLE LIFE JUST FINE WITHOUT YOU TELLING ME WHAT TO DO!"
I'm making a conscious effort to innocently stop this. I'm getting on my own nerves.
What do you need to work on with your spouse?? Let's be a better spouse and do the right thing.
They are sooooo worth it.
Have a fabulous day!
Hugs and blessings~
Monday, August 10, 2009
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I am so guilty of this very thing - been working on it, though. I am the logical reasoner trying to do all things most efficiently. Maybe that comes with years of motherhood, I don't know. But what makes me think MY way is better? This is the real issue, isn't it?
Ouch.
My thing is finishing his thought before he does. I know it absulutely drives him crazy. The think is I know as soon as I do it I need to shut my mouth and let the man talk. :)
Praying for you my sweet friend!!
Hugs
steph.
Ouch. Please move. You are stepping on my toes.
I'm with angie.
I don't know how James has put up with me for the past few months. I can barely stand to be around myself sometimes!
Thank you for the toe stepping, Fran. I think being aware of what you are doing is the first step...right?
What do I need to work on?
The.same.dern.thing.
I annoy the stinkin heck outta myself!
I hear ya!! I believe my pastor calls it nagging.
Dern, I hate that word!
We can just all pray for each other on this one. :)
Love ya,
Darlene
This one hurt a little but I REALLY needed to hear it! :)
I'm going to really make a conscientious effort to tell myself, "SHUT UP WOMAN! YOU SAY THIS MESS ALL THE TIME!!!" when I feel like giving my hubby unsolicited advice. Why do we do this??? I would hate it if he said things like this to me all the time.
yes indeed my friend you are striking a nerve :)
I think that as women we assume that b/c they are our husbands we can "boss" them around
however they are people too with their own opinions ideas etc
Thanks for the reminder
Much love
Kim
Cute post Fran. I do the exact same thing. When in the car.. Why don't you go this way? Watch out for that person.. let Him in he has his blinker on.. sometimes I feel like I am treating him like one of the children. That is so wrong..I need to work on that.
This very thing has been weighing heavy on my mind and in my heart. I 'see' ways that my dear hubby can have things around him 'better'....and I share it with him--gently of course. UGH! I think to myself "shuddup! His way is okay!" I also explain why my way would work well, when he doesn't respond...yeah, I just keep going and going about it. Double UGH! I'm working on it, but need a zipper on my mouth. :^\
TeresaL
Mine is...I'm not asking MUCH. Aye.
Quit telling everybody about my little brown pills!
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