Monday, May 11, 2009

Who am I?

I've been sitting in some dysfunction for quite awhile now and it's so very hard. It has hurt me. It has changed me. It has taken it's toll on me. It drives me CRAZY. It is far from pretty. But, who am I to settle for it? Should I be ok with it? Should I try to make a change? Or, should I realize that I can't fix or change people? Who am I??

I'm not God. Nope. None of us can do what we think someone should be doing or how someone should be acting. We cannot make people be who they aren't. Who am I to think that I can change someone? Only God can make those big changes. All I'm doing is just talking about it.

I can care for people. I can pray for people. I can be a strong leader. I can set examples. I can walk in the confidence of Christ.

Who am I to judge? Seriously?? Who am I to think I'm any better than the next Joe. Who am I to put myself above anyone???

If you could hear my story, then you'd know that I have NO BUSINESS WHATSOEVER to think I'm any better than anyone.

I'm just as messed up as you. I'm just as messed up as your pastor. I'm just as messed up as your brother or sister. I'm just as messed up as your neighbor.

We are all just messed up. Our degrees may vary, but we are all messed up.

I'm getting over myself and remembering exactly how far God took me out of a pit and remembering that I'm no different than anyone else.

So, whatever dysfunctional situation you find yourself in.....let's get over ourselves and simply be filled with the humility that we need to. We all know dysfunction, don't we? Or, is it just me?

Who am I to judge, criticize, or talk about anyone or anything.

I want to understand and remember that we live in a fallen and broken world.

Who am I to put myself above any other sinful person?

Philippians 2:3 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves."

I do know that I am a daughter of the most high King and I choose to walk in the power of His Spirit and be filled with humility, love, and mercy and hopefully be enough out of the way so He can do His beautiful thing.

Hugs and blessings~


Inksstillwet said...

Why does it take us so long to learn this lesson? And why do we have to keep learning it over and over again? This is some clear direction, right here, sister and I thank you for your compelling words this morning!

Latte With Me said...

Amen and amen.

I'm always amazed at the people I thought had it all together just don't! And I'M SO GREATFUL!!

It's my turn to give you a hug - If we were closer - we'd be going out for coffee or something.


Mary R Snyder said...

I LOVE this post!! Awesome. And I'm learning to love people right where they are and sometimes that right in the middle of a big ol' mess. God loves me right where I am and sometimes I'm in the middle of a big ol' mess!

How can I do any less?

Mel @ Studio MCA Designs said...

I totally get your point. I know I have briefly touched on a similar situation going on in my life. However, God released us from that yesterday. For us, it was not that we think are better or less sinful than the next person. We can empathize with the presence of flaws and sins, and love the people. At this point, though, we know that we are no longer supposed to remain in a sinful situation. This is a very difficult move in obedience because we have no idea what the next step is or where the path will lead. We refuse to let fear be our guide, though.

It was good to read this today and weigh it against the reasons for our decisions made this weekend, and then still believe that we are doing what we are supposed to do.

Did that make any sense at all? ;)

Patty said...

Totally agree with you!

I found some great verses to pray over our lives to help us walk in ways pleasing to God!

I will share them with you soon!
We need a phone convo real soon!!
Goodness I miss you!
Much Love,

Toknowhim said...

I have heard that verse a couple times is a great one, and one that I need to remind myself of often :)

mer@lifeat7000feet said...

Yep, we are ALL broken and in need of forgiveness. Every. single. one. of. us.

In our brokenness, we often hurt others. Sometimes knowingly, and sometimes without intent.

We all need grace and mercy, and those of us who've received it, have a responsibility to freely bestow it on others.

Good thoughts here, Fran. Hang in there!

ocean mommy said...

Oh boy are you right! We are all a work in process, goodness my process just seems to take a little longer!!!

How I love you and your honest heart!

MISS you!

A Stone Gatherer said...

I have had these very same issues of late! Our pastor keeps telling me I have to stop being the holy spirit to people. I have to remember who I am, and that I am no better! Thanks for the wakeup call!

Lindsee said...

Amen, sister friend. Amen.

gillian said...

I found your blog through the comment you left on Pete Wilsons blog post. Your post title Who Am I? intrigued me to check out your blog. What a great post, a word I needed to hear! I'm learning to remind myself that I am an imperfect person working with imperfect people, or married to an imperfect husband :)

I love your blog header, did you do it yourself?

Rejoicing in Him...

Teresa L said...

I spent too much time yesterday and the day before, crying because I felt so alone and hurt by things others have said recently. I cried out to God--asking why...and to please help me stop the behavior that might be contributing to these situations. I am probably not making much sense, nothing new there (smile)...but the injuries to my heart and mind have been severe. I've considered leaving home, considered leaving this earthly home (I would not do that---but the thought has popped into my head).
I don't understand why people judge and hurt others...and I know I have done it to others.
My prayer is that I will stop judging others and lean completely on God, instead of finding my worth in interactions with others.

Sorry for the ramble----as you can tell, I'm still working on letting the hurt go and leaning on God's promises to never leave me alone.

Hugs to you for sharing your thoughts with us. You help me keep my focus.
Teresa L

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